"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference"
Sort of sums it up, regardless of your beliefs.
I grew up more worried more about what my mates thought, rather than what I actually valued. Drank too much, did lots if stuff I shouldn't have. I grew up with little parental guidance or communication.
When I had kids, it was a time for personal reflection. I didnt want them just going along with what everyone else did, drinking, drugs, bullying or anything else. I was determined for them to think for themselves, and give them the courage to stand up to their peers and say NO. ( I was actually ashamed of how weak a person I use to be)
Im proud of my 2 sons, they're far from perfect, yet able to make me feel a lesser man. They drink less than me, have never done drugs, have an great relationship with both Elaine and myself (she has to take most the credit) and stand by what they believe.
For myself, Ive cut down on the days I drink. Not drinking on work days at first was a challenge. To fill the void wasnt easy. Old habits as they say. But now it has become the norm.
I believe in everything in moderation my friends.
Dont spoil it with excess or austerity. Life's too short.
But if you cant control it, it will control you.
Cheers Glen