I know this topic is along the lines of "what is the best............" and I think I have nearly answered my own question with the research that has been done but this is where we are at.
Currently towing an Aussie Jays 12ft camper with Drifta DPOR and storage box. Loaded up approx 950kgs and a ball weight of about 110. Towing with a 2009 Subaru Outback 3.6R (rated to 1800kg)
Towing capacity is not an issue but fully loaded with the fridge, ice box, power pack, wife, kids and a full tank of fuel and I think we're getting close to the GVM of the car. I'll take it to the weighbridge this weekend to get more of an idea but since kids grow up it's not going to get any lighter.
Wife doesn't want anything too big (ideally no bigger than the Outback) and it will be a long term car. Higher towing capacity would be nice as it opens up options to upgrade the camper further down the track.
At the moment an LS-U MU-X ticks most of the boxes in size/capacity/capabilities/price. Obviously lose quite a few creature comforts. We don't go off road at the moment but that may start further down the track with the boys starting to like fishing, biking and trail running.
Is there anything else that could/should be considered???
Al.