To Maverick01
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your wife at these very trying and testing times.
I have just gone through 5 and a halve years of very similar circumstances to you, where my wife of 43 years battled Pancreatic cancer. She was given only5% chance of surviving 5 years and sadly passed away on the 11-1-2016. We were lucky that we lived our lives fully ,and at every opportunity grabbed life with both hands. If I can I would like to tell you of our hard times and how we coped. Firstly we are(were) very practical and honest people, so we involved all the family even the grand kids (young kids are a lot smarter than we think some times) and were totally open and calm in our conversations. We never blamed any body, got mad at any body, talked to as many people we could find who were in the same situation.I stayed off the booze, but did have a few nightcaps, this helped heaps, (not only me but the wife as well). Eat properly, I didn`t and that was not good. Don`t reject help as this can sometime come from the strangest of places and people.I`m sorry I don`t have a magical wand, but you can pm any time if you wish to talk. All my prayers and thoughts are with you and your wife