Sometimes Rules are made to be broken. Rules regarding Grey water were dreamt up by some govt employed idiot.
Back in 2007, I connected my kitchen sink, laundry and bath room to a plastic 200ltr drum that I buried in the lawn. I then installed a $150 submersible pump with its own float switch which then dumps the water onto the lawn, or into garden beds.
I am able to have a healthy looking garden, but don't have to use a lot of very expensive SA Water to achieve it.
I have young children, and they know not to play with that hose, or to go near the water when it discharges. The pump goes off twice a Day on average, and discharges about 150 ltrs a time. It takes about 70 - 90 seconds to pump out the 150ltrs.
I have not noticed any adverse effects on the garden from 6 yrs of using this water.