You do have a delema don't you? I hear what you are saying with tables, cupboards and the likes.
Sounds like you need to head the K.I.S.S method (keep it simple sweetheart), which to me means: If you use it, put it away. If you dirty it, clean it. If you want it, you unpack it, use it, clean it and repack it.
Using this method, we dumped a whole heap of crap within weeks. All this stuff to find a spot for that you really don't need. EG: Why take a couch if you never use it? If you do really need one ... pick one up cheap from Lifeline and donate it back upon exit.
As for kitchens, our setup is simple. It's stored on the camper, comes with a pantry we've never filled yet (one day though), it's a 4 burner but we don't often use it (we have though), we have a suitcase style table we use to put stuff on (yes we have used it to eat off), fridge/freezer (we use both all the time), but mostly we take our OzPig to cook with. It heats our water for showers (bucket & cup), is our cooking facility, provides warmth and gives us something great to gaze at come night time.
Check out my blog link below to see how we do it every other week.
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