Advice on giving money for a Wedding Present

[Beachman]

Hi All,

We are attending a wedding this weekend for a work colleague and they have requested money for a present. Seeing it’s been over 10 years since we last attended a wedding, I have no idea how much to give.

We aren’t rolling in money, but I also don’t want them to open the card and think cheap skate.

I’m actually surprised myself and my Wife we actually invited as while I’ve worked with both of them at different times over the years, we aren’t that good a friends that we catch up on weekends etc.

The reception is being held at a 5 star hotel with a 5 hour Beer/Wine drinks package.

I was thinking of giving $80, but after some honest answers if this isn’t enough??

Thanks

[dazzler]

I would not give cash. $100 gift voucher maybe.


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[chester ver2.0]

100 bucks is my usual going rate for a wedding

[Green rv]

i look at it as if i were to pay for the meals and drinks myself thats how much i would give
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[jimc1]

or you can give them a cow or if you feel generous give them a classroom (well a donatation to Care Australia)

[Snow]

Buy em a toaster. Damn cheek asking for cash.

[prado2004]

pretty common these days asking for cash, especially when people have been living together for a while. $100 is acceptable

[Aaron Schubert]

How close are you to them?

Even $50 is acceptable; there are a lot of variables.

Aaron

[Oldandslow]

Went to my niece's wedding last weekend and they requested cash, apparently most couples do now. We gave $100 and that seemed to be what most gave though some close friends and rello's gave more. Never heard of anyone giving less.

[Mik01]

How close are you to them?

Even $50 is acceptable; there are a lot of variables.

Aaron

Agree.
My FIL reckons you should pay what the food and drinks would have cost you. I prefer to give a flat 50 for extended rellies and friends, and close family get more up to about 100.

[Footy Shorts Shane]

Just don't go and keep the cash.

[paulo]

$80 sounds alright, so does $50, it's really up to you. The vouchers aren't a bad idea either. We went to a wedding last year in a similar circumstance and really felt like we were there to make up numbers/add more cash.

[dazzler]

What about a card with no cash but "buy something nice" written inside. Leave envelope open


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[oldmate]

What about a card with no cash but "buy something nice" written inside. Leave envelope open


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    I like it. Hahaha.

But yeah $80 to $100 would be fine.

[UIZ733]

Would probably depend on the circumstances. If it is a 1st 'official opening' one should probably give more.  Repeat offenders, I am not so sure. We have a mate who has gone a few times (4 to be precise) and we have warned him not to push his luck anymore. 

[rotare]

The rough guide that someone suggested about what a meal and a few drinks in a restaurant would cost you on a night out, for two, is probably a fair way at looking at it.

You can only assume the bride and groom aren't looking at covering their costs, however, there's probably not too many places that offer a decent 3 course meal, grog and entertainment for $40 per person either.  I'd be inclined to give $100 minimum, and even then that would work out to be a cheap night out if using that as a guide.

Personally, I'd rather pay a little extra than have people remember me as a tight a*se though. 

[scarps]

Not a new concept, this way the supposed happy couple don't get stuck with aunt mabel's rose pattern meat platter handed down through 5 generations of weddings, with faded box and dog eared corners. Hundy should do it

[Jakster1]

I've always thought to cOver the cost of your meals and drinks is fair
$100 each person.

[Marschy]

Are the happy couple Asian,. Because this is the norm rather than the exception

[Bird]

Just say you cant go something has popped up and save the cash

[chester ver2.0]

Just say you cant go something has popped up and save the cash

Why am i not suprised your are tight as a ducks buttt

[fishfinder]

I have been to a couple of weddings where cash was asked as a gift and prior to going we suggested amongst family and friends that are invited was  everyone to have 2 envelopes one with a card and the other named anonymous with cash then there is no "what a cheapskate" or "stuck up rich snob" comments from people watching the envelopes being opened. I always want to place an IOU in the envelope but always lost that argument, but it works good as everyone gave what they could afford,, and we never asked each other what we gave.
 

[berlitza]

Cut out some coupons that can be found on the back of receipts, there as good as cash and you score a cheap night out

[nab]

My last 3 or 4 weddings the couple asked for money. $100 would be the lowest I would go, why save a few $$$ and cause issues, not necessarily with the couple but also yourself worrying if you gave enough or will they think you are a tight arse or whatever.

Just think that you are getting a night out with hopefully a good crowd, good food and free beer!

[Oldandslow]

The wedding we went to last weekend was a very modest affair with the reception held in a large room adjacent to a restaurant. It was only finger food with selected drinks and cost the couple $85 a head.