Hear you re: the problems.
We never seen ours setup or packed away, just given verbal instructions
We've done a couple of 'close to home' weekend trips to begin with. My missus had some doubts - just quietly, so did I, but don't tell her
Just take your time, & before you know it, you'll be breaking your neck to get away
Get the kids involved with style besides just wanting to run off & play/swim/catch snakes etc. Takes the load off you & hubby & helps them to feel responsible.
Read a post from another member here who has his/her kids set tasks, they love it