Tjupurula sorry if I have caused offense, I think you may have misunderstood me. Or maybe I have misunderstood you. When I say work around I mean, talk to the patient/person and discuss openly what is or is not acceptable, and find a solution that does not cause any boundaries to be crossed......eg your own solution, you have 2 hands so you shave the area yourself. Not to make assumptions or plow on through.
I could think of worse things than being made family to a mob that love the land, hunt, fish etc
Sounds like your cousins have themselves pretty well sorted, its a sham more folks cannot find that level of tolerance for differences.