Hey Metters. As I have stated it is just my opinion.
A bolt looses 1/3rd of its torque when put together dry due to friction. So how about you do what you do and I'll do what I do and you maybe not have a go at people trying to help. The thread on the wheel stud was not cross threaded it picked up while undoing the nut. This could be due to a lot of reasons but if there was any sort of lube on it it probably wouldn't have picked up.
Lube is a good thing. Just my opinion.
Sorry mate, but I have to agree with Metters. Never lubricate your wheel studs/nuts. And as for torque settings, there are tables that give standard torque settings for bolt/nuts, that take into account whether the bolt and nut its plain black steel, lubricated steel, plated and galvanised steel. Torque settings for lubricated nuts and bolts is always lower than for un-lubricated steel.