Post by: maverick01 on December 03, 2014, 10:14:12 AM
Well let me tell you it has,
I will give you a bit of background on the matter. My wife and I first met roughly 4 years ago (both of us are now 29year olds) we then decided to tie the knot roughly 14 months later and while yes as every newly married couple have there petty arguments everything was going along just rosey until October last year when the wife discovered a small lump in her breast. After extensive testing it was discovered to be a melanoma.
Now she is not the type to sun bake and always covers up in the sun. Well we decided to do further scans and it was at this point we found she has roughly 12-16 minute melanomas throughout the chest area. The doctor has then pointed out that there was nothing he could do including no treatment available apart from a trial which has never been tried on humans before and he said he wouldn't try it due to the dangerous side effects. The doctor has then said he has given her a 20% chance to last 2 years and a 5% chance to last 5 years.
Well we fast forward another 12 months and she has been suffering migraines for the past 4 weeks. Well eventually we decided to get a head scan done, well we have more bad news the cancer has now spread to the rear of the frontal lobe (brain).
I will say the hardest thing in life is was your loved 1 waking up every morning in pain and vomiting due to the headaches in which the doctors can only prescribe panadol.
All I can say to everyone is when you finish reading this is to go hug your family and cherish all the good times and forget about the little petty rubbish. As this can happen to anyone of us
I want to clarify 1 thing. I never started this thread for people to feel sorry for me. I started it for anyone feeling down or depressed to post up about why your feeling down and we as a "MYSWAGGER" family can all pick everyone up again.
From Maverick01
Post by: scarpsD40 on December 03, 2014, 10:50:59 AM
It's a good reminder of several things:
1-never take life for granted.
2-if we're doing it tough, every chance someone's doing it tougher.
3-we're all part of a great community that will listen, read, provide advice and support when and if needed.
Wishing you guys all the best support and help as needed.
Post by: maverick01 on December 03, 2014, 11:11:23 AM
Couldn't agree more.
Never take life for granted
Post by: KingBilly on December 03, 2014, 11:13:56 AM
https://www.ruok.org.au (https://www.ruok.org.au)
Post by: evolution on December 03, 2014, 11:16:48 AM
My daughter when she was born was constantly in pain. And I mean the pain where if she wasn't screaming she was throwing up because of it.
She is doing better now and doesn't get the chest pain as much due to the medication, however it is the hardest thing in the world knowing that you are powerless to help, :'(
Every time I look at her though, when she is happy or when she accomplishes something new I cannot describe how proud I am of my little fighter.
I really feel for you mate, and I sincerely hope that no matter what that you continue to have good times together. Sometimes when I am really feeling the pain of what my daughter is going through she just smiles at me and everything seems ok for a bit..
My thoughts are with you guys, If I can help in anyway send me a PM. Happy to chat.
Cheers
Evo
Post by: maverick01 on December 03, 2014, 11:17:52 AM
Technically yes I'm ok but without being rude what is actually classed as "OK" is my situation
Maverick01
Post by: maverick01 on December 03, 2014, 11:20:10 AM
Your post brought a year the eye.
You have been there on a totally different matters and thanks once again.
Post by: KingBilly on December 03, 2014, 11:23:08 AM
Don't give up, whatever you do, don't give up.
At 49, a very close friend/mate/ex-colleague of mine, went to his GP with a small lump behind his knee. Melanoma. Given three months. Fast forward two years and he is still kicking. Suffered a hell of a lot. Multiple ops, radiotherapy, chemotherapy, drug trials, change of diet and life style but still with us. One tough bastard with an amazing attitude and will to live. Thought I had lost him last week but he pulled through. Won't be long and we are all expecting it, including him. But mate, don't give up whatever you do.
Good luck and best wishes to your wife. Keep smiling, stay strong, she needs you.
KB
Oh, and no idea what is OK anymore. Too much crap in life these days. The important thing is that somebody asks you if you are OK and then listens. Sometimes that is all that is needed. We are listening. PM if you want to chat off line.
Post by: paceman on December 03, 2014, 11:25:56 AM
Maverick
Don't give up, whatever you do, don't give up.
+1. prayers to you and your family.
Post by: evolution on December 03, 2014, 11:27:08 AM
Thanks KB
Technically yes I'm ok but without being rude what is actually classed as "OK" is my situation
Maverick01
I don't think there is any set answer to that question. Don't be afraid to seek help from someone if you feel the walls closing in and can't find the door.
I have found this mob to be a lifesaver.
http://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support (http://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support)
Thanks evolution.
Your post brought a year the eye.
You have been there on a totally different matters and thanks once again.
Thats ok mate. After talking with the docs, the best thing I can do to keep the lights on is talk openly about it. Be it on here or with people over a brew.
Dark times happen to most people. However different the reasons may be, the emotions and pain can be very similar. Openly talking about things, even if you feel silly about it, is just another way to open the door. (I hope that makes sense.)
Cheers
Evo
Post by: maverick01 on December 03, 2014, 11:38:49 AM
This post has just made me realise how close the MYSWAGGER family actually is.
People from all around has offered there support whether it be talking to them or steering me or even someone else in a different direction. It truly amazes me the support this forum offers
Post by: krisandkev on December 03, 2014, 03:00:00 PM
Morayfield and bought it and it is a great read.
We are stuck in Brisbane for 6 or 7 weeks with me getting zapped in the head, fun fun fun, but as my wife and I sit in the cancer treatment waiting room each day we see so many patients and it certainly puts a different slant on life. Me, I am always on a high after each zap because I know my tumour is not cancerous. After two operations they are now using some brilliant radiation techniques to kill it off. Don’t want operation number 3, not getting any younger you know.
Maverick01 I really feel for you guys. And to everyone else, yes stop putting fences up to stop you heading off. Do it now!!!!! >:( Kevin
Post by: Beachman on December 03, 2014, 03:29:51 PM
I really feel for both you and your wife as the big C is a horrible disease especially considering she is still so young. Hopefully your Wife is one of lucky ones who goes into remission.
My thoughts are with you.
Post by: Bird on December 03, 2014, 03:41:32 PM
Shame I didn't see this earlier I'd have tried to catch up for a coffee, I've been in Brissy since Thursday last week.. I've been suffering the nasty D for years... Talk - don't let Shit build up on you.
Currently struggling as I ran out of medications yesterday and I cant just visit a Dr anywhere to get them..
Post by: maverick01 on December 03, 2014, 03:48:25 PM
For anyone suffering this disease. Pm me and I can give you some info on foods to avoid to maximise your chance of survival.
The doctors won't tell you what foods to avoid while diagnosed with the "C" word.
Post by: Beachman on December 03, 2014, 04:34:04 PM
Post by: briann532 on December 03, 2014, 04:38:58 PM
You are entitled to feel like 5h1t. Its a human emotion. You should be allowed to express yourself and talk about how you feel.
Its has helped me deal with many things over the years.
Other posters have mentioned places to get help and there are a few others.
USE THEM.
They may or may not help, but what have you got to lose?
The myswag community is also a terrific help.
I am always happy to talk Shit or just sit in silence and listen if anyone needs an ear.
My place is always open to a swagger in need.
Just get out there, talk and ask.
We're all human, and
Post by: berlitza on December 03, 2014, 04:50:44 PM
I don't think doctors give out diet advice when going through treatment because most of them don't know. My mum seeked out a dietitian when going through breast cancer and where watching with baited breath a relative with secondary bone cancer do the same thing. Diet change with treatment is a great thing but not an alternative
Post by: maverick01 on December 03, 2014, 04:59:30 PM
When I mentioned about changing diet, I should have been a bit more clearer about it. Unless you research how cancer survives nobody will tell you that cancer actually survives mostly on SUGAR. So if you minimise your sugar intake you may minimise the cancer of spreading. Now the missus has cut out pretty much all sugars since October last year but has recently slipped up in the past 4months.
Now I'm not saying by cutting out sugar the cancer will survive but when your in a situation like she is then you will try absolutely anything at all.
I take my hat of to her for cutting out sugar as in this day and age it's almost impossible to do
Post by: Banjo16 on December 03, 2014, 05:13:40 PM
Words are cheap but sometimes there is little else, I hope your life improves and you spend more time together than expected.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Post by: oldmate on December 03, 2014, 05:28:13 PM
Mate ,we have never met and never will but I wish you and yours all the best.
Words are cheap but sometimes there is little else, I hope your life improves and you spend more time together than expected.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
X2. Couldn't say it any different.
Post by: raider on December 03, 2014, 05:50:13 PM
I have no affiliation and no proof whether it works or not but it is a science based on acidity and alkalinity of the soils from which our food comes from. Good luck with everything.
http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=5&ved=0CDUQFjAE&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpercyweston.org%2F&ei=q7x-VJT7F5GC8gWJrIDwBA&usg=AFQjCNGWh4YiKIGcoYq-fqAo14-w4XI1Bw (http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=5&ved=0CDUQFjAE&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpercyweston.org%2F&ei=q7x-VJT7F5GC8gWJrIDwBA&usg=AFQjCNGWh4YiKIGcoYq-fqAo14-w4XI1Bw)
Post by: Soosipine on December 03, 2014, 05:50:39 PM
My thoughts and best wishes are with you both.
Sue.
Post by: maverick01 on December 03, 2014, 06:33:39 PM
Raider thanks for the link. I will pass it on.
Like I mentioned in my earlier post that remember to kiss and hug your loved ones daily as you never know when something like this can strike.
Maverick01
Post by: Brett B on December 03, 2014, 06:39:08 PM
X 1000
I have a rare crapy thing trying to knock me off but refuse to give up ;D
I feel bad for my family and friends watching me go through it
Stay strong easy to say
Hang in there
Post by: vicandug on December 03, 2014, 06:57:18 PM
We put off doing things until that one day when we have the money, the time, the leave etc.
You are so right, we shouldn't put things off.
My thoughts are with you and your wife Mav and I would like to thank you for posting your story and making me and hopefully others rethink the way they look at things.
Xxxx
Post by: speewa158 on December 03, 2014, 06:59:02 PM
Post by: Nomad on December 03, 2014, 07:25:09 PM
Well done for bringing up such a difficult, but meaningful topic.
From my family to yours we wish you the best and if there is absolutely anything that we can do to assist please just let me know.
Best regards
Paul Butler
Post by: Wato on December 03, 2014, 07:37:11 PM
My Wife is a Radiation Therapist at the PA Hospital, if the is anything you or your Wife want to know about treatments etc just let me know
Keep talking to people,
Craig
Post by: DaveCQ on December 03, 2014, 09:49:17 PM
Thanks for the post mate.
Puts things into perspective. Here I am stressing about a Shitty time I am currently having at work, and people like you and your wife are going through this.
I now feel like a selfish prick. My thoughts are with you guys mate. Soldier on as best you can and reach out when you struggle.
Once again, thanks.
Dave.
Post by: murmar on December 13, 2014, 01:45:29 PM
All the best to you and your wife.
You commented that the doctors won't tell what foods are best. My wife's oncologist certainly told her about diet but that was all to do with what foods were detrimental to the chemo. I'm not a big believer in trying to cure cancer with diet, I don't think there's enough scientific fact to prove that (but not here to start a argument)
The main thing you can do is do whatever gives you the greatest internal strength and confidence to push on. There will be some very tough times ahead. Enjoy every moment, live for the day like there will be no tomorrow. My wife's diagnosis was grim, there was never going to be a good outcome.
I say this with experience. My beautiful wife of 5 years passed away 6 months ago after a brave 12 month fight. Christmas will be tough.
Post by: Bird on December 13, 2014, 03:01:02 PM
Post by: Ozsnowman on December 13, 2014, 06:07:16 PM
Really great to see the support here! I lost my dad to cancer at 19 (he was only 44), and I wish to this day that there had been more support around back then, so take whatever you can!
Cancer is a right pr!ck of a disease :(
Post by: Black Diamond on December 14, 2014, 10:54:44 PM
Best wishes and thoughts are with you and the Family.
John
Post by: maverick01 on December 16, 2014, 05:25:51 PM
We are both hopeing that oneday soon we can all sit around the camp fire for a few beverages
Post by: Bird on December 16, 2014, 05:31:14 PM
Quote from: maverick01
I would like to thank everyone for there best wishes to me and my wife.
We are both hopeing that oneday soon we can all sit around the camp fire for a few beverages
... anytime mate.
Post by: vicandug on December 16, 2014, 06:20:48 PM
I would like to thank everyone for there best wishes to me and my wife.
We are both hopeing that oneday soon we can all sit around the camp fire for a few beverages
You are always welcome around our fire. Xxxxxx
Post by: Clouty on December 16, 2014, 06:42:21 PM
Post by: Barrabart on December 16, 2014, 07:05:47 PM
Brave thing you've done with the starting the thread, takes a lot to open up and let others in........
Also very honourable to be doing it as a heads up reminder to others.
All the best to you and your Mrs.
Hope good things come your way!
Post by: oldmate on December 16, 2014, 07:36:47 PM
I would like to thank everyone for there best wishes to me and my wife.
We are both hopeing that oneday soon we can all sit around the camp fire for a few beverages
youll be welcome around my fire :cheers: ;D
Post by: dales133 on December 16, 2014, 07:55:43 PM
Seriously no offense here at all and I hope you and your family fair well in the new year ..peace
Post by: maverick01 on December 23, 2014, 09:30:53 PM
As hard as it is at the best of times. It's 10 times harder at this time of year wondering what the next 12months will bring.
This is something I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy. It's heart breaking watching your partner suffer.
Yes I'm feeling down again. Hence why I'm on here as my wife is sleeping and needed to vent even if nobody is awake to listen.
Maverick01
Post by: Swannie on December 23, 2014, 09:33:52 PM
Take care
Swannie
Post by: KingBilly on December 23, 2014, 09:37:17 PM
KB
Post by: maverick01 on December 23, 2014, 09:38:37 PM
Kinda feels odd saying it on a forum. Feels like a AA meeting
Post by: Bird on December 23, 2014, 09:39:30 PM
Quote from: KingBilly
Hey mate, bent away. We are listeningwat he said...
KB
Post by: robbo1172 on December 23, 2014, 09:39:37 PM
Robbo
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Post by: KingBilly on December 23, 2014, 09:45:25 PM
So, what's been happening?
KB
Post by: maverick01 on December 23, 2014, 10:07:07 PM
Just the usual Christmas shopping and whatever else is associated with it.
Mainly just work and staying home looking after the missus where I can. But i feel useless at home as I wish I could do so much more for her but I can't. I can only be there when she needs me.
I was meant to go away with another fellow swagger on the 27th but at this stage I might have to postpone it as if the missus isn't feeling up to camping then I will stay home.
Maverick01
Post by: xcvator on December 23, 2014, 10:09:15 PM
The big black dog doesn't like that and skulks away waiting for another chance. >:( Keep talking, keep it out in the open so others can help, and that will keep the black dog way from your door for longer and longer,but he will be lurking.
Be thankful for being able to have so much precious time with your wife and family,take every day as a gift from your god and treasure it and hold it dear.
Prepare yourself for the worst, BUT, never give up,work,plan,pray,hope for the best to happen and that will keep the black dog at bay too.
Keep up the talk with your doctor/friends/family it all helps to releave the stress, and who knows, a cure or time buying treatment may come along.
If you ever want to just have a chat give me a call or pm I'm here, sometimes fighting off the black dog myself
cheers Keith :cheers:
Post by: edz on December 23, 2014, 10:52:17 PM
All the best to you all ..
Post by: McTavish on December 24, 2014, 01:22:50 AM
Myself included...either via public forum or private PM's to anyone on here I'm guessing from comments so far.
Quick comments - Unfortunately one of my clients is in a similar situation - kind of? - and his comments to me are that he feels for his wife who is his carer as he has Motor Neuron Disease. He tells me that she is also dealing with the disease but having to do this in her own way whilst also looking after their daughter. He tells me that their way of coping is to talk quite frankly about it. How it absolutely sucks, but they talk honestly about the things they can do now and every day- how they can help each other deal with daily life things...
I really really hope this not out of line - Maybe it is one of the 'taboo' social subjects to talk about - but I feel it may be worthwhile to include in the conversation to assist you. I'm not a doctor or medical person but hopefully can bring this to the table?
Can I encourage you to seek some relief from your bank/financier if you feel the need and look into ways to help yourselves financially. Being in the financial planning game I know there are so many rules around super, insurances, financial hardship etc that may be worthwhile starting to think about to make sure you spend your time and effort supporting one another and being supported by your friends and family too. Rather than money being an issue or maybe another source of pressure. Hopefully this is one area you are all over? But if not - talk to friends and family about this and look for some referrals.
My prayers are with you and your family...
Post by: maverick01 on December 24, 2014, 05:59:34 AM
We started looking into the super thing a few months ago and it finally got approved only last week. We are just waiting for it to be cleared.
I've also started looking into the carer's assistant benefit. So hopefully that can be approved too but I doubt it.
Both my wife and I go through stages that yes we are happy to talk about it to anyone and other days we don't want it mentioned.
Look forward to sitting down with everyone that's offered there support for a beer or 3 around a camp fire.
Maverick01
Post by: KingBilly on December 24, 2014, 08:13:03 AM
What are you guys up to for Christmas? Have you got family and friends coming around? Always a good time of year to forget your troubles, for a short while at least. Hope you get to have few laughs and enjoy some quality family time.
Take care and Happy Christmas.
KB
Post by: maverick01 on December 24, 2014, 04:31:50 PM
Yea last nights sleep was just ok.
We have family coming for christmas lunch.
Don't stress about falling asleep last night
Post by: Bird on December 24, 2014, 08:57:33 PM
I meant vent, not bent LOLgot me hopes up... I thought you were offering..
Post by: McTavish on December 24, 2014, 11:14:51 PM
McTavish thanks.
We started looking into the super thing a few months ago and it finally got approved only last week. We are just waiting for it to be cleared.
I've also started looking into the carer's assistant benefit. So hopefully that can be approved too but I doubt it.
Both my wife and I go through stages that yes we are happy to talk about it to anyone and other days we don't want it mentioned.
Look forward to sitting down with everyone that's offered there support for a beer or 3 around a camp fire.
Maverick01
Great news - can I just offer a quick word - can you do some research into taking money from super under different 'triggers' ie some have massive tax implications and others don't. Can I just ask that you check your options before withdrawing any money from super....
Back to a more cheerful topic - Was the night before Christmas and all was well.... etc etc... Merry Christmas and I trust you all have a fantastic time together tomorrow...
Post by: vicandug on December 25, 2014, 06:16:22 AM
xxxxx
Post by: Bird on December 25, 2014, 07:04:52 AM
Merry Christmas Maverick and Mrs Maverick.Agree to the Mavericks..
xxxxx
Hope you have a great day.
Post by: maverick01 on December 25, 2014, 07:23:21 AM
Initially when started this post, I did it to get it off the chest not once did I ever think I would get so much support from a bunch of people of whom I've never met before. I've been blown away by the support I've received.
I would like this post to continue on not just for me but for anyone and everyone that has issues they need to get of there chest.
I honestly don't know how to repay everyone for what they have done recently.The only thing I can offer is a place to rest those weary eyes if anyone is coming through brisbane at anytime, or even just to grab a refreshing drink at anytime.
Unfortunately I can't offer you a place to set up the camper as we have only get a small block but the nature strip is big enough for a rear fold camper or caravan.
Maverick01
Post by: KingBilly on December 25, 2014, 08:07:25 AM
KB
Post by: maverick01 on December 25, 2014, 08:14:37 AM
Post by: xcvator on December 25, 2014, 08:59:23 AM
Post by: maverick01 on December 25, 2014, 09:53:27 AM
The support from this forum is truely amazing. It honestly feels like 1 big family.
I don't know how to repay everyone
Post by: Bird on December 25, 2014, 10:03:06 AM
Post by: scarpsD40 on December 25, 2014, 10:05:27 AM
nobody is feeling sorry for you dude, this is to celebrate your time and life with ya missus..x2
Post by: Clouty on December 25, 2014, 10:40:44 AM
I'll see ya in the new year ;D
Post by: Swannie on December 25, 2014, 11:51:30 AM
Swannie
Post by: GeoffA on December 25, 2014, 11:59:23 AM
I never started this thread for people to donate or feel sorry for us...
We know...
The support from this forum is truely amazing. It honestly feels like 1 big family.
It is, and it does. It's more than just a forum...
I don't know how to repay everyone
Just stay in touch, and keep posting...
Best wishes mate.
Post by: vicandug on December 25, 2014, 03:18:01 PM
x2
X3 enjoy every precious moment and if we can help with that then it's a good thing. Xxxxxx
Post by: Hairs on December 26, 2014, 05:50:19 PM
We know...Well put mate,
It is, and it does. It's more than just a forum...
Just stay in touch, and keep posting...
Best wishes mate.
I don't know how to repay everyoneAs Kev said, just keep posting and keep in touch.
We just may get to share a camp fire one day, :cup:
Post by: Chippy76 on December 26, 2014, 08:48:28 PM
I haven't been on the forum for a while , and read your original post with a lump in my throat. Mate .. what can I say that hasn't been said?? ... probably nothing ... however there are a few things Id like to agree with and recommend. YES, make the most of the time you have (because the reality doesn't look promising) and don't dwell on the little things ..time is precious, and loved ones even more so.
Importantly thought, do something once a week for YOURSELF ..... whether it is reading a book, going for a motorbike ride or just have a quiet beer ( I don't know your personal situation, so do something that you enjoy ) ... but it is important to look after yourself. I should point out that I deal with my wifes depression on an almost daily occurence, so you know where I'm coming from, in regards to struggling with the "sh*ttiness" in life.
Hopefully you can find comfort and help in this forum, they are a great bunch of people like that. And of course, my PM is always open if you need a chat!
Cheers Chippy :D
Post by: bazt on December 26, 2014, 09:20:23 PM
bazt
Post by: Foo on December 27, 2014, 06:52:29 AM
Thanks.
Kinda feels odd saying it on a forum. Feels like a AA meeting
I've been reading through this thread as for some reason I missed it. Here's my take on things.
You don't realise how many people are fighting this hideous disease, until you come in contact or do something for a research organization. I did a Charity Ride back in 1980 or 81 from Ipswich to Cairns to raise money for Cancer Research and ever since then my awareness of what people go through was lifted ten fold.
Talking to strangers about health issues is far easier I believe, because they have no preconceived opinions of you and can offer unbiased answers and thoughts.
The last person that I knew for over 35yrs that had it and lost the battle confounded the Drs with how long he survived but it was the love of his cycling that prolonged the inevitable and he was still doing it until a few months from the end. So what I'm saying is, combine the diet and something that you love doing and it may help keep it at bay for long and make living a little bit better sometimes and there is quite a lot written about this.
My thoughts are with you and your wife, Mav and you should never apologise for talking about these things, ever, because it can eat at you and then you can't be as strong and supportive for your loved one!
Foo
Post by: maverick01 on December 30, 2014, 09:45:26 PM
Unfortunately today we had a massive scare while delivering the kayak to GreenRV in Redcliffe.
As we were pulling out from his shop. My wife turned to me and said ring the ambulance NOW. She had absolutely no idea who I was,where she was or even how old she is. Ontop of all that she had lost all her vision.
Thankfully the ambulance were there within minutes and immediately started pumping her with 500mls of saline. They then rushed her to Redcliffe hospital where they pumped another 1 litre of saline in her.
The doctors and paramedics both said she was severely dehydrated which caused her to almost faint.
All I can say is that was the scariest thing of our lives.
I always did but now I have the utmost respect for doctors and paramedics. They were fantastic.
Maverick01
Post by: Bird on December 30, 2014, 10:14:52 PM
Post by: maverick01 on December 30, 2014, 10:32:34 PM
No where did I hide that exclusive bottle of bundy???????
Post by: vicandug on December 31, 2014, 08:31:18 AM
I am so glad that's all it was. Xxxxx
Post by: maverick01 on December 31, 2014, 08:32:16 AM
Post by: KingBilly on December 31, 2014, 08:37:02 AM
KB
Post by: Foo on January 01, 2015, 10:10:53 AM
Foo
Post by: maverick01 on January 01, 2015, 11:29:56 AM
But thanks anyway
Post by: Bird on January 01, 2015, 11:31:53 AM
Quote from: maverick01
Thanks everyone but unfortunately it doesn't look good.:(
But thanks anyway
Post by: KingBilly on January 01, 2015, 11:52:05 AM
Thanks everyone but unfortunately it doesn't look good.
But thanks anyway
Mate, new year, new hope :cheers:
KB
Post by: vicandug on January 01, 2015, 03:02:30 PM
Thanks everyone but unfortunately it doesn't look good.
But thanks anyway
You are in our thoughts and if you ever need an ear, my swag has many.
Xxxxx
Post by: Chubbyone on January 05, 2015, 03:26:55 AM
I don't get on here as often as I would like to, and when I do I usually am pretty shy, just hang around in the background trying to learn a thing or two, however reading your post this morning has really touched me, I will be following you advice as soon as I get home from work as I am recently married and I can't hardly fathom what you guys are going through as you fight this fight.
All I can say to everyone is when you finish reading this is to go hug your family and cherish all the good times and forget about the little petty rubbish. As this can happen to anyone of us
I have not experienced this with my partner or someone so close but lost 2 of my Grandparents to it in 12 months and my uncle a few years later. I can't begin to Imagine how hard it is.
I wish there was something we could do for you guys, I guess all I can do is to extend the same offer that other swaggers have and hope it helps somewhat, I am a shiftworker and am awake at all kinds of wierd hours if you are ever looking for someone to chat to in the wee small hours of the morning, I would be happy to listen or chat, whatever you need. I have been through a pretty Shitty time, nothing compared to you but a favourite saying one of my older friends always told me was "Keep Attacking" and I try to live by that nowadays.
I will PM you my contact details in case you ever want or need to chat, but from my family to yours can I offer you a really big hug and as much support and well wishes as we can offer.
Take care mate and Keep Attacking
Chris
Post by: maverick01 on January 05, 2015, 06:25:58 AM
Post by: maverick01 on January 18, 2015, 07:20:18 AM
Yesterday at 4:20am my wife was rushed to the PA hospital in Brisbane because she suffered from a seizure. So now they have her on IV to reduce the swelling on the brain and also another IV to limit the chance of any possible seizures down the track.
The hospital are wanting to do surgery to see if they can try to remove the tumour growing on the brain.
Very worrying times
Post by: Swannie on January 18, 2015, 07:23:10 AM
Swannie
Post by: Nomad on January 18, 2015, 07:25:08 AM
If you need a helping hand for anything just mention it here.
Fingers and toes crossed and saying a prayer for you both.
Best regards
Paul
Post by: KingBilly on January 18, 2015, 09:58:47 AM
KB
Post by: Foo on January 18, 2015, 11:08:58 AM
Foo
Post by: Nay-DMAX on January 18, 2015, 12:07:26 PM
Post by: Bird on January 18, 2015, 12:49:10 PM
Quote from: swannie
Thoughts are with you Mav
What he said mate.. nobody deserves to go through any of this.
Hope the surgery goes well mate, if it can help and gives some hope, then think long and hard about it... not an easy decision.
Post by: Homer_Jay on January 18, 2015, 02:18:13 PM
try to stay positive.
Post by: RosieM11 on January 18, 2015, 02:31:41 PM
Difficult. On your shoulders, big weight to bare and chest explosive times. I hope for everyone's sake there will be a positive outcome. Thinking of you and yours. :'( Rosie.
Post by: maverick01 on January 18, 2015, 03:02:36 PM
We won't know anything until tomorrow
Post by: Clouty on January 18, 2015, 08:52:28 PM
Give us a buzz for a chin wag anytime mate..
Post by: Bird on January 18, 2015, 09:06:31 PM
Quote from: Clouty
Give us a buzz for a chin wag anytime mate..what he said.
Post by: Barry G on January 19, 2015, 02:13:20 PM
Having walked your path I still find it hard to comment without feeling like what I write is trite.
Above all, cherish every moment, and make sure that the system listens to what your wife's wishes are.
I really feel for you both. As others have said, lots of us here to listen when everything seems too burdensome.
Post by: vicandug on January 19, 2015, 05:17:09 PM
Xxxxxx
Vicki and Graeme. (Ug)
Post by: maverick01 on January 19, 2015, 09:13:12 PM
Well today she had an MRI to find out if it's travelled any further. We won't find the results out until tomorrow and then she has more CT scans and PET scans.
Fingers crossed that it all comes back that it hasn't gone too far.
Maverick01
Post by: GeoffA on January 19, 2015, 09:25:15 PM
Best wishes.
Post by: Nay-DMAX on January 19, 2015, 09:38:06 PM
We're all here, and we're all thinking of you.
Best wishes.
x2 Yep what he said.
Post by: Bird on February 04, 2015, 09:04:46 PM
Still thinking of ya mate...
Hope all is well after the operation and the recovery is coming along ok.
Take care
Post by: maverick01 on February 04, 2015, 09:24:05 PM
I will fill everyone in soon. I'm just waiting till we are out of the danger period
Post by: KingBilly on February 04, 2015, 09:26:59 PM
KB
Post by: Nay-DMAX on February 04, 2015, 09:33:06 PM
Hope it is all positive news.
KB
x2 you are both in our thoughts
Post by: Bird on February 04, 2015, 09:34:30 PM
Quote from: maverick01
Yea the op went well.Can understand that..
I will fill everyone in soon. I'm just waiting till we are out of the danger period
Not after nitty gritty, more so that you know ya still got plenty of shoulders here if ya need em.. :)
Post by: GanG on February 04, 2015, 10:07:55 PM
I have been a nurse for 30 years today, and if nothing else my time in healthcare has reinforced to me the need to live life to its fullest as there is no guarantees. I hope you and your wife have the chance to make the most of the time available to you. Your courage in starting this thread is commendable and the sense of community on this forum is fantastic.
I currently work in mental health having moved out of the hospital setting for a while. If any swagger needs a professional ear or help navigating the system I am always happy to take a PM - no promises but will help if I can.
Thinking positive thoughts for you and your wife maverick.
Post by: vicandug on February 05, 2015, 05:57:57 AM
I agree with GanG 100% +.
Make the most of every second, of every minute of the day.
Take care Mav. You and your wife are in my thoughts.
Vicki
Post by: maverick01 on February 05, 2015, 07:13:42 AM
If anyone is in need of a chat about life or whatever else. I'm always available day or night.
Maverick01
Post by: paceman on February 05, 2015, 09:44:50 AM
VicandUg I hope all goes well.
If anyone is in need of a chat about life or whatever else. I'm always available day or night.
Maverick01
i find it hard to know what to say to people in a terrible situation such as yourselves.... everything feels a bit inadequate... :(
but, i'll just say that you guys are in my family's prayers.
keep the chin up and as others have already offered, you can add my shoulder to the list...
Post by: maverick01 on February 05, 2015, 11:52:44 AM
Post by: GanG on February 05, 2015, 05:00:33 PM
Post by: KingBilly on February 05, 2015, 05:04:10 PM
At 49 and 8 months he was told by his doctors to go home and say goodbye to his family.
There is always hope.
Kb
Post by: maverick01 on February 06, 2015, 08:22:52 AM
Wednesday 2 weeks ago my wife had a 2 inch tumour removed from the back of the frontal love in the brain. The operation went well even by the surgeon, he said he is 99% confident that he managed to remove it all in 1 piece.
So far she is recovering well. The sight is still limited but improving a little bit every day. She has a lot more energy.
We are just taking each day as it comes
Maverick01
Post by: Beachman on February 06, 2015, 08:25:48 AM
Post by: IanC on February 06, 2015, 08:39:13 AM
Post by: jwb on February 06, 2015, 08:40:39 AM
All the best
Post by: xcvator on February 06, 2015, 08:43:59 AM
Post by: paceman on February 06, 2015, 08:44:18 AM
great news for you both!
Post by: Bird on February 06, 2015, 08:45:17 AM
Quote from: maverick01
Well as much as I wanted to let everyone know earlier I thought it was best to wait til she recovered a bit.I think this calls for another bottle of bubbly and a bunch of flowers for Mrs Maverick..
Wednesday 2 weeks ago my wife had a 2 inch tumour removed from the back of the frontal love in the brain. The operation went well even by the surgeon, he said he is 99% confident that he managed to remove it all in 1 piece.
So far she is recovering well. The sight is still limited but improving a little bit every day. She has a lot more energy.
We are just taking each day as it comes
Maverick01
I'm in for $20 - who else is in?
Post by: KingBilly on February 06, 2015, 08:48:43 AM
KB
Post by: ronmac on February 06, 2015, 08:57:16 AM
I think this calls for another bottle of bubbly and a bunch of flowers for Mrs Maverick..$20 from me, cheers Ron.
I'm in for $20 - who else is in?
Post by: Foo on February 06, 2015, 10:02:02 AM
Well as much as I wanted to let everyone know earlier I thought it was best to wait til she recovered a bit.
Wednesday 2 weeks ago my wife had a 2 inch tumour removed from the back of the frontal love in the brain. The operation went well even by the surgeon, he said he is 99% confident that he managed to remove it all in 1 piece.
So far she is recovering well. The sight is still limited but improving a little bit every day. She has a lot more energy.
We are just taking each day as it comes
8) :cheers:
Foo
Maverick01
Post by: robbo1172 on February 06, 2015, 11:10:27 AM
I think this calls for another bottle of bubbly and a bunch of flowers for Mrs Maverick..
I'm in for $20 - who else is in?
Try and stop me, I'm in...
Robbo
Post by: Bird on February 06, 2015, 11:41:29 AM
bottle of bubbly and some flowers is the least we can do from here
:cup:
Post by: GeoffA on February 06, 2015, 12:01:29 PM
Post by: KingBilly on February 06, 2015, 12:04:32 PM
KB
Post by: vicandug on February 06, 2015, 12:27:34 PM
Would love to chip in for the flowers but can't at the moment.
Gotta love my swaggers!!
Vicki
Post by: Bird on February 06, 2015, 12:57:56 PM
When ever ya ready.
Post by: JohngQld447 on February 06, 2015, 02:01:46 PM
Bruce, put me done for $20 as well.
John
Post by: Nomad on February 06, 2015, 07:55:23 PM
Post by: oldmate on February 06, 2015, 09:30:58 PM
Well as much as I wanted to let everyone know earlier I thought it was best to wait til she recovered a bit.
Wednesday 2 weeks ago my wife had a 2 inch tumour removed from the back of the frontal love in the brain. The operation went well even by the surgeon, he said he is 99% confident that he managed to remove it all in 1 piece.
So far she is recovering well. The sight is still limited but improving a little bit every day. She has a lot more energy.
We are just taking each day as it comes
Maverick01
Good news mate.. Clouty's and myself's offer still stands when ever ya want. Easter we are going to the same place we went at Xmas, if you are able to make it. :cheers:
Post by: Bird on February 06, 2015, 10:15:05 PM
Quote from: oldmate
Good news mate.. Clouty's and myself's offer still stands when ever ya want. Easter we are going to the same place we went at Xmas, if you are able to make it. :cheers::cup: :cup:
Post by: DarWen on February 07, 2015, 07:45:45 AM
Post by: Nay-DMAX on February 08, 2015, 04:47:59 PM
Post by: LuckyDog on February 08, 2015, 06:50:37 PM
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Post by: Bird on February 12, 2015, 10:32:19 AM
Post by: Black Diamond on February 12, 2015, 03:45:07 PM
I think this calls for another bottle of bubbly and a bunch of flowers for Mrs Maverick..Put me down for $20 too mate, anything to help put a smile on someone's face :cheers:
I'm in for $20 - who else is in?
PM sent :cheers:
Post by: ronmac on February 13, 2015, 09:43:45 AM
Post by: maverick01 on February 13, 2015, 04:48:03 PM
Maverick01
Post by: Bird on February 14, 2015, 08:41:36 AM
Hope it brings a smile to her face.
Post by: maverick01 on February 14, 2015, 04:23:03 PM
it aint much, but buy that bunch-a-flowers, and post up a photo of ya missus with em.. :)
Hope it brings a smile to her face.
Will do for sure mate
Post by: maverick01 on February 15, 2015, 10:33:29 AM
We managed to get a bunch of flowers and a few bottles of wine. There is still some money left over from the donations so I will go and get her another bunch this week
Post by: GeoffA on February 15, 2015, 10:39:20 AM
As promised.
We managed to get a bunch of flowers and a few bottles of wine. The missus now wants flowers on a regular basis.
Excellent mav.. :cup: :cup:
Make sure she gets them.... ;D
:cheers:
Post by: maverick01 on February 15, 2015, 10:42:43 AM
Thanks to everyone for there generous donations. If there is anything we can for anyone please don't hesitate to ask.
Maverick01
Post by: Jen, Sprogs n Him on February 15, 2015, 01:05:40 PM
Then I paused on this thread, pulled my head in, and started counting my blessings instead.
Mav, I can't imagine what you and Mrs Mav are going through, and I don't think I could express in words how sorry I am that this has happened to you.
I hope you are getting the love and support you both need at this time.
Thoughts are with you and your family. Xxx
Post by: maverick01 on February 15, 2015, 01:16:04 PM
I was about to make an entry on the daily rant thread about how we missed out on a cruise for my birthday... Now my whole family has to go without us...
Then I paused on this thread, pulled my head in, and started counting my blessings instead.
Mav, I can't imagine what you and Mrs Mav are going through, and I don't think I could express in words how sorry I am that this has happened to you.
I hope you are getting the love and support you both need at this time.
Thoughts are with you and your family. Xxx
Thanks. We are truly blown away with the support and donations we have received from this fantastic forum.
It's like 1 big family.
Maverick01
Post by: cucinadio on February 15, 2015, 02:27:34 PM
Post by: maverick01 on February 15, 2015, 08:14:43 PM
Post by: Bird on February 15, 2015, 08:52:10 PM
Quote from: maverick01
As promised.Nice flowers :)
We managed to get a bunch of flowers and a few bottles of wine. There is still some money left over from the donations so I will go and get her another bunch this week
As I said - it aint much, but if it brings a smile to her face, and yours, its a small price to pay :) The least we can do from this distance
Post by: McTavish on April 07, 2015, 10:43:57 PM
Post by: Nay-DMAX on April 08, 2015, 08:14:22 AM
Mav - Just checking - Are you doing OK? Anything more you and your family need?
Thanks for putting this up I have been thinking of you and Mrs Mav too especially over Easter hope things are going ok.
Post by: maverick01 on April 08, 2015, 09:24:58 AM
At this stage things are ok. Mrs Mav was on a real high for sometime but unfortunately over the past 3-4 days she has been getting a few headaches which we have both been very concerned about. I've told her to keep resting as well as going to enjoy life.
So thanks to everyone that was thinking of us over the holidays.
Maverick01
Post by: Jeepers Creepers on April 08, 2015, 04:26:01 PM
Post by: Bird on May 08, 2015, 02:19:00 PM
Post by: maverick01 on May 08, 2015, 03:38:25 PM
Your wright, I have been a bit quiet on here for a while. We did however go buy a jetski and only last week we picked up a ute for the missus to drive when she can drive.
Unfortunately about a week ago Ranae got a headache and it disappeared for a day then it's come back but unfortunately it hasn't really disappeared but it did get really bad over the past few days.
Maverick01
Bird- What's coming our way mate?
We don't expect anything as everyone has been there for us already more than you can imagine.
Post by: Bird on May 08, 2015, 04:45:45 PM
Post by: Foo on May 08, 2015, 05:46:45 PM
Got something coming your way mate to give you both a good night out.. :cup: :cup: :cup: :cup:You big softy! ;D :cheers:
Foo
Post by: maverick01 on May 08, 2015, 06:56:23 PM
We don't want everyone to feel like we are a charity case.
If anyone is up brisbane way anytime. Send me a PM and we will definitely catch up over a beer or 3.
Maverick01
Post by: oldmate on May 08, 2015, 10:05:19 PM
Thanks mate but there is no need to go to that much effort to do that.
We don't want everyone to feel like we are a charity case.
If anyone is up brisbane way anytime. Send me a PM and we will definitely catch up over a beer or 3.
Maverick01
Will be up that way soon. May take you up in that. :cheers:
Post by: maverick01 on May 08, 2015, 11:03:05 PM
Post by: Bird on May 09, 2015, 12:39:07 PM
You big softy! ;D :cheers:(http://quicklol.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/bird-blush.jpg)
Foo
Post by: Clouty on May 09, 2015, 06:37:36 PM
Thanks mate but there is no need to go to that much effort to do that.I'll take you up on that beer or 3..
We don't want everyone to feel like we are a charity case.
If anyone is up brisbane way anytime. Send me a PM and we will definitely catch up over a beer or 3.
Maverick01
Post by: maverick01 on May 09, 2015, 06:56:24 PM
Anytime your free mate. Give me a buzz and we will catch up
Maverick01
Post by: maverick01 on May 19, 2015, 08:59:50 AM
Unfortunately things aren't looking too good at present as Ranae has been having severe headaches most days over the past 2 or so weeks.
This morning she said was probably her worst and to top it all off, about 6:00 she made a dash to the toilet where she was sick so the whole process is unfortunately repeating itself.
Maverick01
Post by: noel_w on May 19, 2015, 09:28:47 AM
Post by: maverick01 on May 19, 2015, 09:35:29 AM
Post by: Bird on May 19, 2015, 09:43:32 AM
Post by: oldmate on May 20, 2015, 06:55:49 AM
Post by: maverick01 on May 20, 2015, 08:02:00 AM
Post by: vicandug on May 20, 2015, 08:11:14 AM
Thinking of you and Ranae.
Vicki and Graeme. xxxxx
Post by: Jen, Sprogs n Him on May 21, 2015, 11:31:28 PM
Post by: maverick01 on May 22, 2015, 02:54:33 PM
If anyone is passing through brisbane at anytime, shoot me a PM and we can catch up for a few beers
Maverick01
Post by: maverick01 on May 31, 2015, 04:18:56 PM
So regretfully we might have to sell the camper.
But hoping that doesn't mean we will be kicked out of the myswag family.
Maverick01
Post by: Nay-DMAX on May 31, 2015, 04:26:57 PM
Unfortunately things aren't looking any better than 3 weeks ago.
So regretfully we might have to sell the camper.
But hoping that doesn't mean we will be kicked out of the myswag family.
Maverick01
So sorry to hear Mav have been hoping for some good news for you guys. I hope you are staying in the myswag family camper or not. Which hospital has Ranae been in?
Post by: maverick01 on May 31, 2015, 04:36:30 PM
She has been dealing with the following hospitals over the past 2 years.
PA Hospital
Mater Hospital
QE2 Hospital
Redcliffe Hospital
Maverick01
Post by: Hairs on May 31, 2015, 04:44:06 PM
But hoping that doesn't mean we will be kicked out of the myswag family.If you had said you were buying a jeep and a caravan then yes, there would be a good chance of being shown the door 8)
Maverick01
Sorry to hear things are what they are.
You have to do what you have to do, stay in touch no matter what happens mate.
Post by: Nay-DMAX on May 31, 2015, 05:49:29 PM
Ranae hasn't been to any recently but when they removed her tumour that was on the brain. That was done at the Princess Alexandra hospital in brisbane.
She has been dealing with the following hospitals over the past 2 years.
PA Hospital
Mater Hospital
QE2 Hospital
Redcliffe Hospital
Maverick01
Was just checking cause my sister lives up that way and my little nephew (her second) decided to come into the world at 28 weeks he is at the royal Brisbane. His 8 weeks old now doing well but still in hospital.
Post by: maverick01 on May 31, 2015, 06:00:13 PM
Hope all goes well.
Maverick01
Post by: Bird on May 31, 2015, 06:06:55 PM
Quote from: Hairs
If you had said you were buying a jeep and a caravan then yes, there would be a good chance of being shown the door 8)
Sorry to hear things are what they are.
You have to do what you have to do, stay in touch no matter what happens mate.
What he said.
Post by: Nay-DMAX on May 31, 2015, 06:09:20 PM
Congratulations mate
Hope all goes well.
Maverick01
He has been getting great reports from the dr's so that is really good. Putting on lots of weight.
Post by: maverick01 on June 01, 2015, 09:35:44 PM
But unfortunately Ranae was admitted back into hospital this morning at 9:30am. At 11:45 she was sent for a CT scan on the brain to find out what's causing the headaches and vomiting (similar symptoms as last time).
At 1:00pm the doctor came back to tell us that the cause of the symptoms is because Ranae has another tumour in the same spot on the brain as where they removed the last tumour. The last tumour measured 48mm in diameter where as this 1 measures slightly smaller being 45mm. But the doctor said this 1 has come back rapidly.
So by the looks of it we are back to square 1.
Maverick01
Post by: Nay-DMAX on June 01, 2015, 09:47:02 PM
Well sorry to have to do this.
But unfortunately Ranae was admitted back into hospital this morning at 9:30am. At 11:45 she was sent for a CT scan on the brain to find out what's causing the headaches and vomiting (similar symptoms as last time).
At 1:00pm the doctor came back to tell us that the cause of the symptoms is because Ranae has another tumour in the same spot on the brain as where they removed the last tumour. The last tumour measured 48mm in diameter where as this 1 measures slightly smaller being 45mm. But the doctor said this 1 has come back rapidly.
So by the looks of it we are back to square 1.
Maverick01
There are just no words Mav but please know that all of our thoughts are with you and Ranae at such a difficult time.
Post by: Swannie on June 01, 2015, 09:51:11 PM
Swannie
Post by: Barry G on June 01, 2015, 09:59:33 PM
I have been following your reports of Renae's resilience with my own silent hope for you both.
Hold each other tight, you are both in all our hearts.
Post by: noel_w on June 01, 2015, 10:09:02 PM
Post by: maverick01 on June 01, 2015, 10:16:51 PM
I honestly don't know what to do anymore.
Maverick01
Post by: Rumpig on June 01, 2015, 10:18:05 PM
My thoughts are with the 2 of you
Post by: Bird on June 01, 2015, 10:39:58 PM
Post by: smartyingreen on June 02, 2015, 12:18:25 AM
Thanks.
I honestly don't know what to do anymore.
Maverick01
Just keep holding your head high mate and holding the Mrs tight.
Devastating to read your latest update.
Shane.
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Post by: Jen, Sprogs n Him on June 02, 2015, 01:10:08 AM
Post by: robbo1172 on June 02, 2015, 07:24:09 AM
Keep fighting the good fight and lean on as many people as you need to.
Although we have never met, you have our love, support and thoughts.
Robbo...
Post by: cruiser 91 on June 02, 2015, 07:40:19 AM
I don't know how, but I'd be more than happy to help out anyway I can.
Steve
Post by: Soosipine on June 02, 2015, 07:46:17 AM
Sue.
Post by: vicandug on June 02, 2015, 07:58:12 AM
Post by: Black Diamond on June 02, 2015, 08:10:41 AM
Post by: Brett B on June 02, 2015, 08:26:00 AM
Post by: IanC on June 02, 2015, 09:56:29 AM
Post by: DarWen on June 02, 2015, 10:43:26 AM
Post by: maverick01 on June 02, 2015, 02:05:52 PM
Maverick01
Post by: Ozsnowman on June 02, 2015, 05:37:02 PM
Post by: Hairs on June 02, 2015, 07:36:05 PM
Just treasure every moment you guys have with each other.
Our Thoughts & Prayers are with you.
Post by: Foo on June 03, 2015, 12:18:34 PM
Foo
Post by: lindamc on June 03, 2015, 10:57:01 PM
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Post by: maverick01 on September 11, 2015, 08:28:54 AM
Over the past few weeks Mrs maverick has been suffering from severe headaches, so we decided to go for a head scan. Well unfortunately they found 3x Brain tumours behind the right hand ear.
Unfortunately at this stage they have said they may not be able to re-operate but we are heading back up the hospital tonight to get a scan and next week go back again to discuss possible chemotherapy.
Maverick01
Post by: Swannie on September 11, 2015, 08:30:01 AM
Well since its been a long time since my last post i thought i should update everyone.
Over the past few weeks Mrs maverick has been suffering from severe headaches, so we decided to go for a head scan. Well unfortunately they found 3x Brain tumours behind the right hand ear.
Unfortunately at this stage they have said they may not be able to re-operate but we are heading back up the hospital tonight to get a scan and next week go back again to discuss possible chemotherapy.
Maverick01
My Heart breaks for you both... :'(
Swannie
Post by: Bird on September 11, 2015, 08:56:14 AM
Post by: vicandug on September 11, 2015, 09:01:13 AM
That really sux.
Xxxxxx
Vicki
Post by: noel_w on September 11, 2015, 09:05:25 AM
Post by: maverick01 on September 11, 2015, 10:23:13 AM
Noel_w I'll grab a beer with you one day soon
Maverick01
Post by: robbo1172 on September 11, 2015, 11:04:59 AM
Obviously there's no words that can help.
All the very best to you and your wife mate and keep fighting the good fight.
Robbo...
Post by: noel_w on September 11, 2015, 12:40:30 PM
Noel_w I'll grab a beer with you one day soonFor sure mav, I'll look forward to it.
Post by: Ozsnowman on September 11, 2015, 05:17:42 PM
Post by: Terry W4 on September 11, 2015, 05:23:30 PM
Post by: scarpsD40 on September 11, 2015, 05:37:49 PM
Breaks ones heart seeing this.x2
Post by: KingBilly on September 11, 2015, 05:47:13 PM
KB
Post by: Lloyd65 on September 11, 2015, 06:06:12 PM
Please pass on my family's best wishes to Mrs Mav. Tell her not to give up and that all the myswag family are thinking of her. And best wishes to you also Mav.X2
KB
Post by: Nomad on September 11, 2015, 06:37:51 PM
Post by: GeoffA on September 11, 2015, 06:55:27 PM
Post by: LuckyDog on September 11, 2015, 07:08:42 PM
Post by: oldmate on September 11, 2015, 07:33:46 PM
Good luck Mav and Mrs Mav. :cheers:
Post by: GGV8Cruza on September 11, 2015, 07:53:55 PM
Garrick
Post by: Foo on September 11, 2015, 08:54:15 PM
People really don't know how lucky they are until, they see what others are going through!
Hoping that things improve for your good wife.
Foo
Post by: Nay-DMAX on September 11, 2015, 09:33:28 PM
Post by: maverick01 on September 12, 2015, 03:43:00 AM
I will say that 1 thing this scenario has taught us, is to live each day like its your last.
Maverick01
Post by: plusnq on September 12, 2015, 04:03:40 AM
Post by: Big Damo on September 12, 2015, 10:02:37 PM
What a terrible journey to be on. Let's all just hope that a miracle comes for Ranae and that the future brings a little faith to us all.
Even though we have never met my thoughts will be with you both and perhaps we will meet up o a swagging trip one day
Damo
Post by: Doweymex on September 12, 2015, 11:57:48 PM
going through something similar with my mum at the moment.
Make the most of everything you have.
Post by: maverick01 on September 13, 2015, 12:32:31 PM
Doweymex if you need a chat please pm me any time.
Maverick01
Post by: Bird on October 16, 2015, 09:46:58 AM
Post by: Bird on November 27, 2015, 01:38:41 PM
Hows life going mate??
Post by: Nay-DMAX on November 28, 2015, 12:17:27 PM
Post by: vicandug on November 29, 2015, 07:25:34 AM
I sent a message to mav yesterday as I was a bit concerned about him.
Mrs Mav isn't doing very well at all. I don't want to put the details here to respect their privacy but
You are all more than welcome to send him a pm or I can forward the message if you would like.
My thoughts are with them both.
Vicki
Post by: maverick01 on November 29, 2015, 08:34:28 AM
Well unfortunately Mrs Maverick had a 3rd brain tumour removed from the same spot as the other operations. The recovery was meant to take 4-5 hours but ended up taking 8.5 hours (very stressful sitting and waiting). This operation was done roughly 2months ago.
The surgery went well but now she has a fluid like build up on the outside of the skull which the doctors have said should reduce over the next few months. While in hospital recovering they had found 3 tumours growing on her lower spine which is preventing her walking properly and doing day to day task, the next step for this was to do radiation therapy on that area this area was treated and the success rate of it working and improving her walking were upwards of i think 60%. Well unfortunately it hasnt seemed to of worked ( doctors dont do scans as they go by symptoms) as Mrs March is still in a fair bit of pain and still cant walk properly, NO DRIVING, NO CAMPING.
Since the operation 2 months ago, the doctors performed another brain scan and they found a tumour growing on the front part of the brain (cant be operated on as its too risky). Two months ago thats all she had in there well unfortunately 2 months later there is roughly 4 in total, 1 of which is growing back in the same spot as the past 3 operations.
So at this stage I'm pretty much a full time carer (not that im a dole bludger but the government/centrelink wont allow us to get the carers benefits which suck). Still trying to get intowork occasionally but haven't been able to for the past 2 months.
Sorry i haven't been active on the forum lately. As you can tell I've been pretty busy with Mrs Maverick.
TIA
Maverick01
Post by: D4D on November 29, 2015, 08:37:30 AM
Post by: plusnq on November 29, 2015, 08:53:44 AM
Post by: maverick01 on November 29, 2015, 09:23:36 AM
Post by: Foo on November 29, 2015, 12:30:40 PM
What a bloody battle you both have on your hands.
Foo
Post by: KingBilly on November 29, 2015, 03:04:05 PM
KB
Post by: Jeepers Creepers on November 29, 2015, 03:09:52 PM
Sorry to hear mate. Thinking of you and Mrs Mav. Best wishes
KB
Yeah, what he said Mav.
Post by: maverick01 on November 29, 2015, 03:40:55 PM
Its more tough times ahead.
Maverick01
Post by: Hairs on November 29, 2015, 04:15:09 PM
You've got mates here if you need anything.
We might not be close to you guys, just give a shout.
I feel I can say that on behalf of this awesome group of Swaggers.
There is no shame in asking for a hand.
As blokes we need to let go more often, it does us No good.
Our thoughts are with you guys.
PM me if you just what a chat, or to let it out.
Take care.
Post by: maverick01 on November 29, 2015, 05:45:40 PM
Greatly appreciated.
Maverick01
Post by: vicandug on November 29, 2015, 07:02:22 PM
Hey Mav,
You've got mates here if you need anything.
We might not be close to you guys, just give a shout.
I feel I can say that on behalf of this awesome group of Swaggers.
There is no shame in asking for a hand.
As blokes we need to let go more often, it does us No good.
Our thoughts are with you guys.
PM me if you just what a chat, or to let it out.
Take care.
That goes from Us women as well. Like I said if you need a chat/winge, you know where I am.
Post by: Hairs on November 29, 2015, 07:18:16 PM
That goes from Us women as well. Like I said if you need a chat/whinge, you know where I am.
Yes, we all need to ask questions and need someone to listen.
Doesn't matter who you are, we all need to feel that some one is there.
Sometimes just knowing that someone is there helps.
Some days our cross is heavy, other days no so, But it helps just knowing some one has kept an ear out for us.
Post by: Banjo16 on November 29, 2015, 07:38:59 PM
At the moment you most likely have more offers of help then you can use and that is as it should be but please reach out if you think it helps.
Our thoughts are we you & yours.
Post by: DannyG on November 29, 2015, 07:59:51 PM
Post by: dales133 on November 29, 2015, 08:02:41 PM
One piece of advice i could give you is contact b&b as hes verry clued up in this department and a super nice guy.
If theres anything i could evver do id do it gladly.
Much respect my man... Dale
Post by: maverick01 on November 30, 2015, 07:42:23 AM
Thank you.
Dales133, who is b&b. Im sure i probably do know him but having a mental blank.
Maverick01
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Post by: Snapman007 on December 10, 2015, 08:14:26 AM
There's always a better alternative. It might not be a great alternative , just a better one.
Post by: plusnq on December 10, 2015, 09:08:34 AM
Post by: maverick01 on December 10, 2015, 02:23:12 PM
There is 1 thing i have learnt from this forum, is nobody judges you and if your ever down and need cheering up then this group is always there to do that. Its 1 big family.
If you want to talk, im here for you or anyone else who may need or want to talk.
Maverick01
Post by: vicandug on December 10, 2015, 06:54:11 PM
Haven't been on here for a while and just read this whole thread. Had plenty of time to as sitting in hospital with the wife as she tried to take her own life last nite with an overdose on alcohol and prescription medication. She suffers from depression. Don't even really know where to start with a response to you and your wife's problem. Life can b a bitch sometimes but you need to keep your chin up and posting on here getting your thoughts out and having people on the forum boost your spirits as it's the best thing that can happen for U both. You can feel very alone otherwise and if you don't look after yourself you won't b able to look after your wife. What you wife is going through I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Pm me if u ever need to chat and I'll send u my number. Up early in the morning so can talk any hr of the day.
I hope your wife recovers soon. Having battled depression for many years it's a horrible thing to have. Thinking of you both. Xxxxx
Post by: maverick01 on February 01, 2016, 11:50:51 AM
Very much appreciated
Maverick01
Post by: vicandug on February 03, 2016, 05:45:03 AM
I sent Maverick a message the other day, as I do from time to time. I like to let him know the support is still there.
It seems that Mrs mav isn't doing too good at all.
I asked if he wanted me to let everyone know and he did.
Out of respect for them both I won't post the details here but I can give more info in a pm.
Greg and Ranae, my thoughts and love are with you both.
Always remember to hug those you love.
Vicki xx
Post by: achjimmy on February 03, 2016, 06:07:37 AM
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Post by: edz on February 03, 2016, 07:12:29 AM
Post by: maverick01 on February 03, 2016, 09:09:04 AM
Its been some tough times lately. I've still been browsing the forum lately but just haven't posted anything.
Maverick01
Post by: Hodgies on February 03, 2016, 08:48:25 PM
Take care
Hodgies
Post by: listo on February 03, 2016, 08:59:35 PM
Post by: whitey on February 04, 2016, 07:43:24 PM
He was the most out going, fittest, hardest worker I ever met, to be turned upside down in a matter of weeks where he was suicidal and couldn't be consoled or helped. We all suffered, we had to endure all the heart ache and stress that at any time we would receive that "knock on the door or phone call" For 2 years he was like that and we couldn't do a thing nor could he accept help from his own sister or brothers, until a man I still haven't met turned his life around and got him sorted out. We are so lucky to have him back to his own self again.
There is help around for depression but hands are tied unless you / the sufferer accepts it ........ like my niece has just done tonight
God bless
Post by: McGirr on February 04, 2016, 08:02:03 PM
Thoughts are with you champ and anyone else in a similar situation, I have been there in similar circumstances and it is gut wrenching more than words can express, we passed that stage and all has been good and then 2 yrs later was hit with one of my boys getting depression due to having a work contract cancelled on his business.
He was the most out going, fittest, hardest worker I ever met, to be turned upside down in a matter of weeks where he was suicidal and couldn't be consoled or helped. We all suffered, we had to endure all the heart ache and stress that at any time we would receive that "knock on the door or phone call" For 2 years he was like that and we couldn't do a thing nor could he accept help from his own sister or brothers, until a man I still haven't met turned his life around and got him sorted out. We are so lucky to have him back to his own self again.
There is help around for depression but hands are tied unless you / the sufferer accepts it ........ like my niece has just done tonight
God bless
Well said. My son went through depression when he was young and came through the other side a great and confident person. He is now 22 with the world at his feet as he follow his dreams in the acting world. To say I am proud is an understatement. Penny, my wife, has suffered depression for years and is on constant medication.
To every one who suffers from it or is affected one way or another with the dreaded curse I hope that you find solice from talking about it with friends and family.
Mark
Post by: DCP on February 04, 2016, 09:29:02 PM
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your wife at these very trying and testing times.
I have just gone through 5 and a halve years of very similar circumstances to you, where my wife of 43 years battled Pancreatic cancer. She was given only5% chance of surviving 5 years and sadly passed away on the 11-1-2016. We were lucky that we lived our lives fully ,and at every opportunity grabbed life with both hands. If I can I would like to tell you of our hard times and how we coped. Firstly we are(were) very practical and honest people, so we involved all the family even the grand kids (young kids are a lot smarter than we think some times) and were totally open and calm in our conversations. We never blamed any body, got mad at any body, talked to as many people we could find who were in the same situation.I stayed off the booze, but did have a few nightcaps, this helped heaps, (not only me but the wife as well). Eat properly, I didn`t and that was not good. Don`t reject help as this can sometime come from the strangest of places and people.I`m sorry I don`t have a magical wand, but you can pm any time if you wish to talk. All my prayers and thoughts are with you and your wife
Post by: vicandug on April 08, 2016, 11:04:48 AM
Mav (Greg) has asked me to pass on the following information to you all.
A month ago ranae was on 20mg Oxycontin tablets morning and night they then increased to to 37mg patches, a week later it went to 50mg patches and then 2 weeks later it has now gone to 62mg patches. On top of all that she has been having terrible pain in her legs and now her knees so last week they changed her nerve blocker tablets (lyrica) from 75mg morning and night now its at 150mg morning and night. With all of these medications they have her on 2x panadol every 4 hours and now Oxynorm (endone) every 2-4 hours this is on top of the already increased pain killers.
Unfortunately a month ago palliative care said ranae defiantly didn't have years but maybe months, now since the medication increase palliative care are now more leaning towards weeks-months.
Ranae is still at home but he is unsure for how much longer.
My love, thoughts and best wishes are with them both.
Vicki
Post by: glenm64 on April 08, 2016, 11:31:22 AM
Cheers Glen
Post by: Banjo16 on April 08, 2016, 12:43:40 PM
I know words can't help but please pass on our best wishes if you are speaking to them.
Post by: Bird on April 08, 2016, 12:52:39 PM
Thinking of both Greg and Ranae.. Cant imagine what they are going through
Each state should get one of those large "THINKING OF YOU" cards and have a night at a pub somewhere for everyone to sign them in each state - NEXT WEEK.. no point doing it in 3 mths time.
Happy to buy a card and arrange get together at a pub central to all in Melb..
Post by: Nay-DMAX on April 09, 2016, 08:11:03 AM
Post by: Terry W4 on April 09, 2016, 06:01:55 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you specially over the next few weeks.
Post by: mumbls on April 09, 2016, 06:40:12 PM
Paul
Post by: Rumpig on April 09, 2016, 07:18:22 PM
I've never posted in this this thread, but followed it closely. My dad had pancreatic cancer and passed yesterday. As I suffer PTSD and depression, things posted by members here have been a big help over the last 12 months. Whether it be a link to a website or something written. While I have never met anybody this forum (I don't think I have), I feel the fellowship offered is something to be proud. I've written this to say thankyou, not for any other reasons. Again, thanks to those who a have posted and to maverick01 for having the courage to start this thread.my condolences on the passing of your father Paul, sorry to read of your loss.
Paul
Post by: KingBilly on April 09, 2016, 07:31:55 PM
KB
Post by: Foo on April 09, 2016, 07:46:30 PM
Foo
Post by: DCP on April 12, 2016, 09:54:37 PM
I know precisely what Greg and Ranae are going through, only I`ve had it twice in less than 3 months.
The only advice I can give to them both is to make Ranae as comfortable and pain free as possible.
They are the only ones who can make the extremely difficult decisions. My wife was doubled up in agony 24-7 but was determined to see Christmas through with the grand kids, which she did , then came the hardest decision we were ever going to make in our lives, which was to go into Hospis care. To see my wife pain free and comfortable for the 11 days she was there gave me some respite from my ever decaying world at that time.
As I said before, if they want some one to talk to I`m available 24-7,just pm me.
It`s so good to see total strangers rally together and just be there for each other, great stuff
Thoughts and prayers to you all.
Post by: Foo on April 13, 2016, 06:57:19 AM
Foo
Post by: Bird on April 13, 2016, 08:43:10 AM
Quote from: Foo
^^ Hope your future has some joy in it,DCP, sorry to read what you've gone through. :'(What he said and well said.
Post by: DCP on April 13, 2016, 08:46:16 AM
They have been very difficult times, but there is light at the end of the tunnel (so to speak).
The help and support I received from my kids and close friends was (is) amassing, also the doctors ,nursing staff, at all the hospitals and clinics were great. I had to deal with the Coroner in Tas and also the police (just routine) and again all were so helpful and understanding.
This is the reason for talking to all of these people and be very honest with yourself, wife, partner,kids and all in involved.
At some stage in our lives most of us have to face the inevitable and how we do it is up to us alone, but with support and accepting help we can and do carry on.
Its also the little things that help, the kind and caring words words written by people we have never met and most likely never will, it all helps.
As for Greg and Ranae I can only send my thoughts and prayers, and hope these are strong enough for a good out come.
Post by: maverick01 on June 06, 2016, 03:53:02 AM
As everyone is aware Ranae has been suffering from cancer for the past 2.5 years.
Ranae was admitted into palliative care roughly 5 weeks ago and has unfortunately deteriorated slowly over the 5 week period. I received a phone call 5/6/2016 at 6:20pm stating that Ranae's breathing had changed dramatically today.
Unfortunately Ranae lost her battle with cancer today 6/5/2016 at 1:25am. Thankfully i was able to be by her side and held her hand as she took her last breath
Maverick0185
Post by: jwb on June 06, 2016, 04:02:19 AM
My thoughts are with you and your family
Regards
John
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Post by: maverick01 on June 06, 2016, 04:08:05 AM
Very much appreciated
Post by: brickiematt on June 06, 2016, 05:34:44 AM
Condolences to you and your family.
Matt
Post by: KingBilly on June 06, 2016, 05:39:01 AM
KB
Post by: plusnq on June 06, 2016, 05:42:40 AM
Post by: paceman on June 06, 2016, 06:13:24 AM
Hopefully Ranae is now at peace.
Post by: scrapsD40 on June 06, 2016, 06:31:23 AM
Post by: Rumpig on June 06, 2016, 06:32:26 AM
My condolences to you and all her family and friends
Post by: GGV8Cruza on June 06, 2016, 06:50:26 AM
Garrick
Post by: GeoffA on June 06, 2016, 06:54:18 AM
Post by: staghornflat on June 06, 2016, 06:56:38 AM
Scott
Post by: Nomad on June 06, 2016, 07:24:00 AM
Post by: Swannie on June 06, 2016, 07:34:58 AM
Starsky
Post by: Foo on June 06, 2016, 07:37:49 AM
Foo
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Post by: Bird on June 06, 2016, 07:51:08 AM
And here I am complaining about having tons of snot flowing like the Zambezi and aching everywhere.
Dunno what to say really. But you know you still have my mob # if you ever need an ear to chew.
Post by: Robbo on June 06, 2016, 08:07:30 AM
Very Best Regards
Robbo and Michelle
Post by: deepop on June 06, 2016, 08:22:34 AM
Hope the pain eases for you quickly.
Post by: Nay-DMAX on June 06, 2016, 08:28:11 AM
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Post by: noel_w on June 06, 2016, 08:36:36 AM
Post by: DCP on June 06, 2016, 08:38:42 AM
Greg Please accept my deepest and sincerest condolences, this extends to both your`s and Ranae`s families,and friends.
Thoughts and prayers. DCP (Pearcey)
Post by: Joff on June 06, 2016, 09:03:06 AM
My sincere condolences
Greg (Joff)
Post by: vicandug on June 06, 2016, 09:09:15 AM
Sorry to hear the news. Ranae put up a bloody good fight and you were by her side every step of the way.
If there is anything I can do just shout out. You are in my thoughts as always. Take care mate.
Vicki
Post by: IanC on June 06, 2016, 09:22:40 AM
Post by: Paul (SA) on June 06, 2016, 05:26:42 PM
Post by: Brett B on June 06, 2016, 05:44:10 PM
Post by: Jeepers Creepers on June 06, 2016, 05:50:45 PM
Remember the fun times you had together.
Post by: briann532 on June 06, 2016, 06:14:19 PM
I have followed your thread mate, but refrained from posted as I had no words to help that had not already been expressed.
I personally know a lot of swaggers and can assure you the love and support is real.
I'm not good with words at times like this, but I give you and your family our deepest condolences.
I admire your strength and love and hope you can find peace.
With deepest sympathy for you loss and admiration for your fight.
Brian
Post by: Champin on June 06, 2016, 06:21:30 PM
Stay strong sir and remember...you are not alone.
Post by: FJCruzin on June 06, 2016, 06:30:22 PM
Remember the good times and stay strong.
Peter
Post by: broncos11 on June 06, 2016, 06:30:48 PM
Thinking of you mate and your family. Our thoughts are with you
Dave
Post by: Humbolt on June 06, 2016, 10:40:57 PM
Never give up, live like there is no tomorrow and do your wife proud!
Don't bottle it up, wail until you feel YOU want to stop.
Reach out when you need it. Surround yourself with positive people and don't be afraid to lean on them!
Post by: Nifty1 on June 06, 2016, 10:51:34 PM
Post by: jayjay on June 06, 2016, 11:04:51 PM
thankyou. I can't begin to imagine what it must feel like to lose your soulmate and best friend. May it be of comfort to know that there are others here who care and empathise in your grief and pain. May your memories be very close and precious. Jenny
Post by: smartyingreen on June 06, 2016, 11:17:28 PM
Deepest condolences,
Shane
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Post by: BaseCamp on June 07, 2016, 09:20:27 AM
BaseCamp
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Post by: DannyG on June 07, 2016, 09:41:02 AM
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Post by: nab on June 07, 2016, 06:02:05 PM
Post by: listo on June 08, 2016, 07:49:50 PM
Post by: Big Damo on June 08, 2016, 09:48:55 PM
No words I can say to ease the pain but I feel for you and your family
sincere condolences to you Mav
Post by: McTavish on June 08, 2016, 10:26:37 PM
Post by: Terry W4 on June 08, 2016, 10:28:15 PM
My heart bleeds for you and your family.
Too many young deaths - too many.
Post by: alnjan on June 08, 2016, 11:22:12 PM
Post by: maverick01 on June 09, 2016, 05:44:17 AM
It's really touching
Unfortunately the funeral is tomorrow which I still dont know how I'm going to get through the day
Maverick0185
Post by: Bill on June 09, 2016, 06:24:53 AM
Bill
Post by: baggs71 on June 09, 2016, 05:41:38 PM
Go for a drive mate...take some port and firewood
Post by: vicandug on June 09, 2016, 07:06:01 PM
Good luck getting through tomorrow. Just go with the flow mate.
I will be there in spirit and I am sure a lot of swaggers will be.
I'll be thinking of you.
:'( :'(
Xxxxx
Post by: raider on June 09, 2016, 09:17:04 PM
Thank you to everyone.
It's really touching
Unfortunately the funeral is tomorrow which I still dont know how I'm going to get through the day
Maverick0185
Agree with Vicandug - just go with the flow. Everyone needs to grieve (as well as yourself ) but you are also there to celebrate her life and the person she was. I am sure there were a lot of goodtimes and laughs and you are a better person for having had her in your life. You still have some tough times ahead mate but Time is a great healer and eventually you will come out of the fog with the help of a good support network and Swaggers. Also recommend the drive , firewood and port when you're ready.
Strength for tomorrow
Raider
Post by: oldmate on June 09, 2016, 09:37:15 PM
Post by: GanG on June 10, 2016, 12:03:20 AM
Sincerely,
Greg
Post by: DCP on June 10, 2016, 08:19:53 PM
All my thoughts and prayers are with you tonight Gerg
Post by: maverick01 on June 24, 2016, 05:34:49 PM
Yes it has been a tough battle and unfortunately the tough times aren't over and never will be. They just become easier to deal with.
I would love to get out camping with a bunch of swaggers but unfortunately I can't bring myself to going as it will bring back far too many memories. I realise there will be alot of firsts for sometime, but all I'm doing at present is slowly putting 1 foot in front of the other. While I'm doing this atleast I'm still moving from.
So if anyone is interested in going camping soon, let me know and we can organise it.
But once again from the bottom of my heart, I cant thank this forum enough for the support I've been given.
Yours Sincerely
Greg and i know Ranae would be thankful too.
Post by: Bird on June 24, 2016, 05:37:31 PM
Thank you to everyone for there condolences and especially everyone's support over the past 2.5 years.Your more than welcome dude...
Yes it has been a tough battle and unfortunately the tough times aren't over and never will be. They just become easier to deal with.
I would love to get out camping with a bunch of swaggers but unfortunately I can't bring myself to going as it will bring back far too many memories. I realise there will be alot of firsts for sometime, but all I'm doing at present is slowly putting 1 foot in front of the other. While I'm doing this atleast I'm still moving from.
So if anyone is interested in going camping soon, let me know and we can organise it.
But once again from the bottom of my heart, I cant thank this forum enough for the support I've been given.
Yours Sincerely
Greg and i know Ranae would be thankful too.
I'd like to think that this joint would get around anyone here that was in your shoes..
Come for a roady down to the High Country mate ;) Don't have to go far to find snow at moment :)
Post by: Swannie on June 24, 2016, 05:44:29 PM
Your more than welcome dude...
I'd like to think that this joint would get around anyone here that was in your shoes..
Come for a roady down to the High Country mate ;) Don't have to go far to find snow at moment :)
I'd be even happy to chip in some $$ for the flights to get you down to the high country
Starsky
Post by: listo on June 24, 2016, 06:22:32 PM
Post by: Nomad on June 27, 2016, 05:10:22 PM
Me too mate, I'll chip in. I've got a really close work mate that's going through the same ordeal as you & it's heartbreaking. Sometimes a trip away to escape reality is the best thing, just a post on here or a pm & I'm happy to put a 50 in to get you down there.
Same.....let me know where and when. :cheers:
Post by: Bird on June 27, 2016, 06:01:21 PM
I'd be even happy to chip in some $$ for the flights to get you down to the high countryx2
Starsky
Post by: achjimmy on June 27, 2016, 06:42:58 PM
Post by: b1 on June 27, 2016, 07:08:00 PM
Same.....let me know where and when. :cheers:
x2
Post by: Black Diamond on June 27, 2016, 11:37:55 PM
Post by: Bird on June 28, 2016, 09:08:22 AM
Quote from: Black Diamond
I'm willing to put my hand up for anything to help make you feel better, whether it be $$ and or take you on a trip down this way. Let us know mate we are all grieving with you.I reckon Swanny would have enough frequent flyer points to take the forum around the world ;)
Post by: Paul (SA) on June 28, 2016, 02:18:36 PM
Post by: edz on September 21, 2016, 09:13:34 PM
Post by: Bird on March 08, 2017, 11:19:50 AM
Post by: vicandug on March 10, 2017, 10:47:02 AM
He said he was doing ok but could be better.
I hope he is ok.
Post by: l0ckym on March 10, 2017, 01:57:58 PM
Anyone spoken to Mav in recent times??? Notice he hasnt been on for a while n i lost his #
If you do a search on his profile - his mobile is listed on one of his For Sale items.
Post by: maverick01 on July 22, 2019, 08:29:11 PM
Truly sorry for digging up a very old post but just thought I would let everyone know that I've since sold the house, sold a lot of items that had memories that I thought it was best to let go of and I've found myself a lovely lady.
So I want to thank each and everyone of you for sticking by a stranger and getting me through the tough times.
Not once have I forgotten about this close knitted family. I will try my best to become active again.
My inbox is always open if anyone wants to chat.
Post by: alnjan on July 22, 2019, 09:22:43 PM
Hey all,
Truly sorry for digging up a very old post but just thought I would let everyone know that I've since sold the house, sold a lot of items that had memories that I thought it was best to let go of and I've found myself a lovely lady.
So I want to thank each and everyone of you for sticking by a stranger and getting me through the tough times.
Not once have I forgotten about this close knitted family. I will try my best to become active again.
My inbox is always open if anyone wants to chat.
Glad to hear you're moving along with life
Post by: maverick01 on July 22, 2019, 09:28:53 PM
Post by: edz on July 22, 2019, 09:46:53 PM
Post by: maverick01 on July 23, 2019, 06:04:25 AM
Post by: paceman on July 23, 2019, 06:23:11 AM
Post by: jwb on July 23, 2019, 06:27:37 AM
Stay safe!
Cheers
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Post by: maverick01 on July 23, 2019, 09:18:38 AM
It's good to be back
Post by: Foo on July 23, 2019, 12:01:56 PM
Foo
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Post by: Hairs on July 23, 2019, 12:59:15 PM
Great to hear.
Happy Days.
Travel Safe.
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Post by: Black Diamond on July 25, 2019, 10:08:16 AM
Post by: maverick01 on July 25, 2019, 07:15:50 PM
Post by: McTavish on July 28, 2019, 02:36:04 PM
Post by: maverick01 on July 29, 2019, 09:13:26 AM
I've definitely come along way since we last spoke
Post by: Bird on March 16, 2022, 02:16:38 PM
Quote from: Brett B
All I can say to everyone is when you finish reading this is to go hug your family and cherish all the good times and forget about the little petty rubbish. As this can happen to anyone of us
X 1000
Along with the Heart Attack thread, this one is just as harsh for many to admit or deal with..
Both should be Sticky threads and scrap many of the outdated crap stickys that are there now.
Post by: maverick01 on March 26, 2022, 08:04:57 PM
Not once did I think that when I first started this thread that it would still be going 6 years later.
It's honestly a bit of a shock that it's still going along with people thinking that it's worthy of being a "sticky" whatever that may be......haha
I may not be as active as I used to be and in honesty it's hard to find that same passion for camping again that I once had.
I'm definitely open to idea's.
As for those suffering depression, please understand you're NEVER alone. Each and everyone of us are here for you.
Anyone is more than welcome to PM me if you want to talk, I'll happily call you or vice versa
Maveerick01
Post by: McGirr on March 27, 2022, 09:49:42 PM
At one stage fast tracking a will and writing a suicide note and planned the day and time. Thankfully I am still here.
The last 12 months, with the job we do, has been hard plus other personal issues.
I try and keep it under control and have good and bad days. I am not on any medication or have seen anyone. I mostly keep it bottled up and deal with it. I know it will eventually get to me down the track.
Mark
Post by: Pottsy on March 28, 2022, 07:29:45 AM
All the best to you.
Post by: maverick01 on March 28, 2022, 08:23:24 AM
I'll happily give you a call as talking definitely helps.
As a bloke who has been through a tough time, I found bottling things up might seem like the best scenario at the time however as you said it will come back when you least expect it.
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I will be upfront, I have been suffering with depression for the last 12 months.
At one stage fast tracking a will and writing a suicide note and planned the day and time. Thankfully I am still here.
The last 12 months, with the job we do, has been hard plus other personal issues.
I try and keep it under control and have good and bad days. I am not on any medication or have seen anyone. I mostly keep it bottled up and deal with it. I know it will eventually get to me down the track.
Mark
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Post by: gronk on March 28, 2022, 09:11:15 AM
Professional help is only a phone call away. You don’t have to see anyone….just talk over the phone.
I had a serious illness last year, and at times I felt pretty low…real low…but I have a wife who I could talk to.
Have you told or talked to your partner ? Have you told her how you REALLY felt ?
I know a couple of people with depression and medication was VERY helpful.
You’ve “come out”, so to speak……keep going and make yourself better…….good luck with it all !!
Post by: xcvator on August 13, 2022, 09:38:30 AM
https://www.news.com.au/sport/nrl/nrl-icon-paul-greens-death-highlights-heartbreaking-problem/news-story/a41894308e658ed418755dbd60befffd (https://www.news.com.au/sport/nrl/nrl-icon-paul-greens-death-highlights-heartbreaking-problem/news-story/a41894308e658ed418755dbd60befffd)
Post by: Hairs on August 16, 2022, 08:04:04 PM
McGirr……..it will only get you down the track if you don’t talk to somebody about it.
Professional help is only a phone call away. You don’t have to see anyone….just talk over the phone.
I had a serious illness last year, and at times I felt pretty low…real low…but I have a wife who I could talk to.
Have you told or talked to your partner ? Have you told her how you REALLY felt ?
I know a couple of people with depression and medication was VERY helpful.
You’ve “come out”, so to speak……keep going and make yourself better…….good luck with it all !!
Every thing you have said Greg, is spot.
You've shared something most blokes would never want others to know.
We all at times fall down the rabbit hole, how far we fall and how we deal with it, and having someone to talk to who doesn't judge.
Please, ask, you are not weak, you are no less a person for asking for help.
Take care.
Sent from my SM-A235F using Tapatalk
Post by: maverick01 on September 03, 2022, 06:29:34 AM
Post by: Hairs on September 03, 2022, 07:37:13 AM
Keep moving forward.
At a get together last night, sharing memories of a mate, who stayed positive to his last breathe, his attitude that everything would be aright, has had a profound impact on us all.
Most of us have for our ring tones,
Always look on the Bright Side.
I had it for a few years now, I installed it on his wife's phone yesterday.
Take care mate,
You don't use magic to disappear, ya use a 4x4 & Swag.
Post by: Foo on September 03, 2022, 03:01:22 PM
Another Forum that I'm on has had a RUOK Thread for a long time and another one associated with my sport of cycling I started a RUOK Thread and has been well received and supported. The first one there was a member that was talking and it set off alarm bells to me and I asked if there was someone close by or had his phone number that could do a check up on him and that saved his life. As blokes we need too open up and not fear snide remarks or any crap but accept that things can drag you down.
I also post the health issues that have affected my over time and currently like what I went through with the beer virus, just so that others may think, well I can relate to this and ask for help if it is getting them down.
The mind is a powerful and unpredictable thing and as much as Drs may think they know best, they can't fully understand what will trigger that thought process of, I'm a waste of space and useless trigger in people. That's why we must try and see changes in our mates.
Foo
Post by: xcvator on September 09, 2022, 08:15:26 AM
Post by: maverick01 on September 10, 2022, 02:54:54 PM
I hope it's managed to touch a few people in a way to make then open up to others.
If its saved even just 1 life then I couldn't be happier that I created the post all those years back.
Unfortunately even after all these years where I had hoped I would never have to support someone with the dreaded "C" word, Unfortunately here I am about to start it all over again.
The difference being is i kind of know what to expect but it definitely doesn't make the situation any easier.
Anyway enough of my problems, if anyone needs to talk about your mindset or you're simply NOT OK please reach out to me as I will never turn down a phone call to someone reaching out.
Take Care Everyone
Post by: prodigyrf on September 17, 2022, 11:49:47 AM
https://www.msn.com/en-au/health/other/doctors-have-stopped-believing-that-chemical-imbalance-causes-depression-they-didn-t-tell-us/ar-AA11TMJp
If you get hit by the blues for whatever reason (and quite often there isn't a defining cause) then you'll need to go on a journey to fully understand the problem and how to deal with it long term as it's closely related to anxiety and a whole range of 'nervous illness' and their symptoms-
https://www.calmclinic.com/treatmentclaire-weekes
Post by: Bird on July 16, 2023, 05:05:07 PM
Post by: maverick01 on July 21, 2023, 09:48:12 PM
I truly hope it's made people take the next step of speaking out and not thinking they can't speak out because they may think it's shameful.......
I might not be as active here as I once was unfortunately but each and every one of the members in this group are willing to help everyone.
This group truly helped me through a difficult time in life and even though I may not have a 4wd or camper anymore I still have a sticker on my daily and hopefully once I get the next setup I might actually get to meet some of you again.
Post by: Bird on July 22, 2023, 08:13:05 PM
Shows what amazing people are on this board, and those that are not active anymore.
Would be good to see some of them back.
Post by: maverick01 on July 23, 2023, 09:43:14 AM
For those that haven't read this thread, grab a cold one and go back to the start, and read through and take it in. I just did again (well 3 beers)
Shows what amazing people are on this board, and those that are not active anymore.
Would be good to see some of them back.
I'll try to get a bit more involved in the forum, although I've had a lot going on in the last few years it's still no excuse.
Post by: Hairs on September 07, 2023, 06:46:15 PM
You don't have to reply here, you can message me.
Just swinging by to say G'day.
Shout out.
You don't use magic to disappear, ya use a 4x4 & Swag.
Post by: maverick01 on September 09, 2023, 02:44:20 PM
Under the circumstances I'm going pretty well.
I hope you're doing well too.
Hey, How are you all.
You don't have to reply here, you can message me.
Just swinging by to say G'day.
Shout out.
You don't use magic to disappear, ya use a 4x4 & Swag.
Post by: Hairs on September 09, 2023, 03:59:39 PM
Hi mate,
Under the circumstances I'm going pretty well.
I hope you're doing well too.
That is good to hear, mate. :)
It's not a race, keep moving forward, you're doing good.
Things are busy, work and helping my sister who has become our mothers carer, trying to organise a lift, to get mum up to the second floor.
She's 83, just had a few stents removed, suffered a mild stroke, fingers crossed she will be home Tuesday.
Still no word of where our brother might be, last known place was Mt Isa 18 months ago, his car isn't registered in NSW anymore.
My sister has started a garden area for Mum to spend time in, she has fixed breeding boxes to trees, which have attracted a Rozelle pair.
Anyway, good to hear from you Maverick.
You don't use magic to disappear, ya use a 4x4 & Swag.
Post by: xcvator on September 09, 2023, 09:45:47 PM
I have to be aware of my moods and feelings 24/7, sometimes I can feel ok, then within a hour I can feel myself falling into the black pit for no apparent reason,then I have to think about what caused the problem, think it out, then put the bad thoughts behind me, it's a day to day fight.
(Nil Illegitimi Carborundum) Don't let the bastards grind you down is a very good phrase for me to try and follow.
3 years ago I was in a bad place and didn't know it, I was drinking up to 3 bottles of spirits a week, my marriage and home was breaking down, I took an overdose of medications and ended up in 1 West, Frankston.
This where I got a lot of help, both with my mind and medications, where I learnt that booze is a depressant. I had ongoing help/supervision for more than a year, didn't have any booze of any sort for more than 6 months.
I am now in a much better place in my mind and family, alcohol intake is almost nil,nightmares and flashbacks are gone ,yes there are god and bad days
Best thing I have is to talk about it, discuss how you're feeling, around a campfire works well , if ever anybody feels they would like a chat either over the phone 0419357763, over a camp fire or just a pm , Im here 24/7
Cheers Keith
Post by: Hairs on September 10, 2023, 08:11:46 AM
Thank you for sharing your experience, and how you are dealing with this.
Here's hoping someone finds strength from reading your words, and it makes a difference to their life or the life of another.
Cheers.
You don't use magic to disappear, ya use a 4x4 & Swag.
Post by: maverick01 on September 10, 2023, 12:47:48 PM
Absolutely Xcavator that alcohol is a terrible thing to have either when you're feeling low or have the potential to let it affect you.
I personally heard some bad news roughly 12 months ago in regards to a very close family member that has been diagnosed with cancer, unfortunately it brought back a lot of memories. Since then I haven't had any alcohol apart from 2 drinks last weekend which I then decided all wasn't for me any more.
On top of all of this I split up with my partner which was an indirect result of my brother throwing accusations around the family causing drama (it's not the first time but rest assured it's definitely the last time) so unfortunately the last 2 years haven't been the best but I'm definitely not complaining.
If anyone ever needs to talk, by all means send me a message and happy to either call you or give you my number if you want.
Post by: xcvator on October 05, 2023, 04:18:28 PM
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-10-05/british-soldier-took-her-own-life-after-sexual-harrassment/102936456 (https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-10-05/british-soldier-took-her-own-life-after-sexual-harrassment/102936456)
Post by: Titfish on October 17, 2023, 01:41:26 PM
But to today’s story. My wife lost her brother yesterday. He had had enough and took his own life due to circumstances beyond his control. Sadly or fortunately they had only found each other five years ago through ancestory and had enjoyed a beautiful relationship from then onwards despite him living in the US. They spoke weekly and loved each other dearly. He was a good man who I was pleased to call a “mate”.
We reflect on any signs that may have been apparent and can’t find any answers. Such a sad time. Take care all who have bad things happening in their lives and get help.
Cheers
Ken
Post by: Bird on October 17, 2023, 04:11:06 PM
I have always kept an eye on this thread and read with interest the battles others have gone through and how they have dealt with them. I didn’t contribute to the thread with my own battles as that was something I chose to share with others. Professional help has been a great thing although the journey is not over yet.
But to today’s story. My wife lost her brother yesterday. He had had enough and took his own life due to circumstances beyond his control. Sadly or fortunately they had only found each other five years ago through ancestory and had enjoyed a beautiful relationship from then onwards despite him living in the US. They spoke weekly and loved each other dearly. He was a good man who I was pleased to call a “mate”.
We reflect on any signs that may have been apparent and can’t find any answers. Such a sad time. Take care all who have bad things happening in their lives and get help.
Cheers
Ken
Sorry for your loss. Just remember not everyone shows signs, not everyone can see signs.
Post by: Bird on January 28, 2025, 09:46:37 AM
Post by: xcvator on March 20, 2025, 10:46:02 AM
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sport/othersports/article-14477543/Heartbroken-Michelle-Payne-breaks-silence-death-sister-Bernadette.html (https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sport/othersports/article-14477543/Heartbroken-Michelle-Payne-breaks-silence-death-sister-Bernadette.html)
Post by: Hairs on March 20, 2025, 04:51:35 PM
Sorry for your loss. Just remember not everyone shows signs, not everyone can see signs.That is so true.
People are good at hiding themselves from others.
When I first joined the RFS, One of the things that I was told, in a group induction, and still do, I take notice of those that attended that incident.
Someone who is usually loud, and they are quiet.
Someone who is usually quiet, and they have become loud.
There are signs, some days, something isn't right.
Hmm, Most won't see that they need help, that's where we have to step up,
You don't use magic to disappear, ya use a 4x4 & Swag.
Post by: Rowlie on March 20, 2025, 05:56:03 PM
I did a stint with Blazeaid a few years ago. I had some experience with rural fencing so was nominated to head up a team. I learned very quickly that the fencing work was very much secondary to just being there and showing some interest and care in their loss. The gratitude and tears were something I hadn't expected. Our most valuable tool was our ears.
Rowlie
Post by: Hairs on March 20, 2025, 06:05:57 PM
Spot on.
Not to far different to what I do, Home Maintenance, I attend to a work order, the resident/s are usually struggling, many are on welfare, my interaction with them makes their day.
Just be kind.
You don't use magic to disappear, ya use a 4x4 & Swag.